Stupid.  The Starting Point

 

Accepting where you are before starting out. If you are stupid, then just about any step you take will be less stupid. Einstein started out stupid. Just don’t sit there repeating “I’m stupid.” Decide to go somewhere: “You were stupid.” You ain’t anymore.

 

And don't call anyone else stupid. If you really want to hurt someone then fine. We are all together in this boat called life. GOOD feeling toward each other, not bad, will get the boat to shore quicker.

 

There is no defense against good feeling. It is the weapon of choice for the destruction of destruction.

 

If 'Stupid" is derogatory then its coming from someone else. (and someone who has difficulty accepting stupidity. Maybe even difficulty accepting others).

 

"Stupid" is where everyone starts.

 

A false road to not being considered stupid by others is to point out how another or others are stupid. This is supposed to make the listener conclude that you are not stupid since you know better. We have an enourmous difficulty in accepting where we are. This is made harder by others not being able to accept where you are. The only acceptable places to be are those places defined by current culture as being 'cool'.

 

Dont you think you could get somewhere a lot easier if you first found and accepted where you were?  A nice solid accepted shoving off point? Finding where you are takes work. Accepting where you are takes more. But after that then real learning can start. Learning with purpose, your purpose. And from where you are. Not from where someone else says you are.

 

What are the effects of my actions?

 If I say George you are stupid". What happens? Let's say George buys it and agree's that he's stupid. He goes away into a dark corner somewhere, doesn't talk to you again, doesn't do very well in life. This is if you're statement to him was derogatory in intent.

 

Lets say George doesn't buy it that he's stupid. What is the effect of your action? George thinks you're an ass, rude, someone who has difficulty dealing with others or even accepting others, someone to have fights with, to tell lies about behind your back. And he's damn unlikely to ever help you, support you or say anything decent to you ever again.

 

But you think about it.  Maybe you can come up with other effects of your action.

 

Heck.  Maybe it would be good exercise to come up with a list of things, attitudes or actions you'd like others to have about you. Then come up with a list of actions you could take that would bring those about.

 

Maybe a list of things, actions, attitudes you'd like the world to have and come up with a list of things you do that brings those things about.

 

Most people have such lists, but usually formed unconsciouly. Get together with them and compare lists and actions.

 

Maybe you'll both get unstupider.